One Life To Live

We all got one life to live, one life to live our lives to the up most fullest. so that we don't have to look back and think about the coulda, shoulda, woulda's, because you never know when it is your day to leave this here earth.

There is a poem I absolutely love and I tend to pull it out to remind myself not to let things get to me:

Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don't, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it, if it changes your life, let it, nobody said it was gonna be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

And thats just it, you can't live your life regretting things you should have done, or done better. You have to brush your shoulders off and keep on moving cause when I say this I mean it, your life is not guranteed. and when you leave this here earth you want to at least leave a mark of good standing. Just last February I lost a really good friend of mine as well as a good friend to many others. and he was the most upstanding guy I knew. He always had a positive outlook on everything, whenever I was down and out about a situation and needed a voice of reasoning I would call him. He did alot for his community and worked with at risk youth. and his life was tragically taken from us all. That right there goes to show you that your life is not promised, he lived a good and honest life and now he is gone. His legacy will still be with us. But damn it hurts like hell to know I don't have my friend to laugh with, to cry with, and to talk to.

I just recently found out that a close friend of mines husband was ran over by a drunk driver this past Sunday on purpose, because why? Because of his nationality? because they were in his way even tho they had the right away to walk? because he was a angry bitter person who decided he wanted to take someone else's life. He ran my friends husband over 3 times, I repeat 3 times. and then drove off and my friend had to watch her husband die in front of her. He was a very upstanding guy, was a good brother, friend and husband, and his 30 years on this earth was cut short.

So when things of this nature happens around me it makes me think maybe I don't need to stress as much about this situation, or get overly angry at that situation, and just live life to the fullest and not let pettyness of others get to me as much.

As I sit here in deep thought I have realized that I have made mistakes in my life and let people take advantage of me, I've excepted way less than I deserve. But I have learned from my bad choices and even tho there are some things I will never get back or people who will never be sorry, I know better next time and I refuse to settle for anything less than what I deserve.
As analyze situations that have occured in my lifetime whether its envolving friendships or relationships I realize I have came out on top, I have gone through my fair share of drama and I refuse to let anyone bring my spirits down and take me to a place I don't want to ever go back to again. So I have made a pact with myself that I will not allow anyone else's bad energy effect my positive energy.


when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. So maybe you should try to live your life so that when you die, you are the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

Because life is too short to be anything but happy!

Til next time
xoxo

Another bad situation!

Do you ever ask yourself why am I always in yet another situation I rather not be in? Do you always find your self in some sort of drama? Finacial problem? Or just in a situation you rather not be in?



If you answered yes, than this post is for you!



Sometimes it feels hopeless, I know. You're trying to form a new good habit, but it's hard. It's hard for a lot reasons, but here's one: You might be putting yourself in situations that "pull" for the bad habit. Situations are extremely powerful. If we find ourselves in a situation that is maneuvering us into doing something that we'd rather not, we have to resist!



Attitudes predict behavior and certain situations can be powerful.



When it comes to changing bad habits, the power of the situation needs to be considered. Let’s think about this for a moment. Where do you do the bad habits that you do?



If you consistantly find yourself caught up in some sort of drama, you have to sit back and analyze what the problem is.. and once you do this you may figure out it is you! I hear alot about people having haters, or they are drama free. but you really don't have to let everyone know you have haters. who wants to brag about people hating them, brag about how much you are loved. and if you are in all actuality "drama" free then you don't need utter it out your mouth every chance you get.

Im not saying there aren't people in the world who hate on people for what they have, or what they don't have, or who they are with, etc. but it relys on you , on how you are going to react to this type of negativity. The biggest thing you can do to someone who has alot of hatred in their heart is killing them with kindness. Like kandi says fly above all the hatred.

If you consistantly are finding yourself in situations where your not being finanacially smart you have to again stop and analyze the situation. First and foremost Business before Pleasure, that is a must. so what you need to do is sit down and prioritize your priorities and if going out, or shopping, etc is more important than paying bills then you have a serious problem on your hands. What people need to understand is you will be way better off if you just do it right the first time. these clubs are not going anywhere so if there is a party this weekend there will be another next weekend or the weekend after, same with clothes or whatever else you may feel you need at that moment it will be there when you are able to afford it cause in my opinion that outfit you just broke yourself to buy isnt goin to pay your rent and that party you just had to go to isnt gonna stop you from getting evicted, lights turned off etc. so prioritize your responsibilities and see that you don't come out on top!

So in closing I just want to say once again. Prioritize prioritize prioritize!!! And think about the outcome of every situation before you do it, and see if you don't come out on top!

Til next time
xoxo

Fakeassness!!!!!

Fake people are people that are not real they always try to deceive you and make you think that they are the real deal. With fake people you can never see the light because when you are staring into their eyes it's always dark and never bright, fake people are like mirrors you can see right through them they are always lying to you but you already know it's a scam. Fake people are always trying to be something that they are not, but when you get a good look at them you realize that they don't look no where near as hot.

In my opinion fakeness is running rampid, especially in our town. Females around town are faker than the hair on their heads, the males are running rampid with that Bitchassness disease.. and its ridiculous. Everyone says they keep it 100, but do they really? Me personally am tired of hearing people say how real they are, or they keep it 100 but then you find out different. what Exactly is keeping it 100? Keeping it real?

Keeping it real means: Staying true to yourself, your faith, your life and constantly seeking the truth.

What puzzles me is when someone knows they don't like you, or they may not care for you but will smile up in your face. I have females and even dudes that I know have talked about me, but will smile up in my face when they see me out, and some even break their necks to speak. My question is why? If I don't care for someone one im not going to speak or even act like I like you.

Now with all that said, there is a what you call being cordial with someone but alot of people miscontrue the meaning of cordial with being fake.

Cordial is when: your warm, sincere, friendly, and is not to be mistaken with being fake. I have certain people I do not care for but we have mutual friends so when were all together I am cordial meaning I will speak and carry on with my business. You don't have to carry on a conversation when being cordial with someone and smile up in their face like you are friends. because thats when being "fake" comes into play.

I have a saying I like to use: Trust can take years to build, but only seconds to break.

I love this saying because when I befriend you and trust you it means something to me, so when you are smiling in my face and being fake, it doesnt matter how long I have had you in my life, its a wrap, all that trust that was built throughout the years will go right out the window. I have observed when speaking to several friends that alot of fakeness is going on within their group of close knit friends, that has me shaking my head because you would think that because they are "close" to you that will not talk about you, cause harm to you etc. Now and days you can only trust within yourself, its sad but extremely true. I have had my own bloodline stab me in my back, I have had friendships that lasted for 10 plus years crumble to the ground all due to the fact people are not true, and were "fake" from the start.


'have you ever realized that when .. people say you’ve changed it’s just because you’ve stopped living your life ... their way. You cannot live your life trying to mold yourself to opinions or expectations of others. They may be happy if you do, but you’ll be miserable.

You have to trust yourself to know more than what you think you do. Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.

and most importantly stay true to yourself, if you don't you can't expect the next person to!

Til Next Time
xoxo

Loyalty

Loyalty.. What exactly is loyalty? The definition of loyalty is: The state or quality of being loyal ie; a feeling or attitude of devoted attachment.

In my opinion qualities of being loyal are:
* Trueness
* Faithfulness
* fidelty

Loyalty is huge in my book. staying true, being honest. I am a very loyal and trustworthy person and I feel if I am loyal and honest towards you, I deserve the same exact respect. But I have had to learn in my lifetime everyone doesn't have my best interest at heart. Everyone isn't me. I have had a couple failed long term friendships that are now deceased, some of which I was being loyal towards them and certain situations arised where I am no longer friends with certain people and now no longer friends with whom I broke my neck to be loyal towards. Talk about a slap in the face. But as I got older I learned from that. But even with that said I still am a very trusting person so if I befriend you it must mean something to me. and I again had to learn the hard way with more friendships and relationships, in result of all this I was becoming a angry person, bitter even and just wasn't myself.

Someone once told me for every minute you stay angry with someone, you lose 60 seconds of happiness that you can't get back.

I couldn't agree more because when your angry with someone it only seems to only hurt you in the long run. Anger is a natural feeling, there are people in this world who do things that make you angry. The point is what do you do with the angry feelings? Examine your feelings, why am I so angry? What can I learn from this? What do I need to do to make this anger into something positive. We should never ignore our feelings or the situation that brought them about. But we can change our actions, and work thru to happiness.

Sometimes people hang on to certain things because of their loyalty to that person but I have learned that you have to do what is best for you and always stay true to you . If walking away is something you have to do in order to do so then walk away.. let it go.. letting go doesnt necessarily mean you are weak it just means that you were strong enough to let something that is no longer good for you go.

Always remain loyal to yourself first and foremost before trying to be loyal to the next person!

Til next time
xoxo

HAPPY

Being happy is something we all want and crave for. Being happy doesn't mean everything is perfect. it means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections. Don't wait for the storm to pass, you have to learn to dance in the rain. I think it's a wonderful way to live from day to day, instead of being down about a situation and waiting for it to get better to be happy, enjoy life. Know that god is in control and will take care of today and tomorrow, so don't worry.. dance, and celebrate everyday you have. We all can let life's craziness get the best of us, I am one who forgets that being happy is the most important thing in the world. I sometimes let life's stress get me down and ruin my spirits. and I have to remind myself that I could be a hell of alot worse than I am. I have this quote I came accross:

Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin!

It makes perfect sense to me, when we try to be so careful in our day to day decisions, sometimes we tend to overlook what might make us truly happy, I don't never want to look back and say "I wish i would have" , live for today because you never know what tomorrow brings.

I too want to be "Happy" and sometimes im so hard on myself believing just because I may not have a spouse or be married, or have this or that, that I am not happy. But when I actually sit back and think about my situation I can't be anything but Happy. I have two great kids that are my world, I have a roof over me and my childrens heads and I am able to provide for us which there are alot of people in the world who can't do that. I have a job in todays recession, I have family, great friends, what more can I ask for. I too need to remind myself of the "little" things that makes my life happy rather than focusing on what I think are the "bigger" things to make me happy. God knows what he has in store for me and I need to just continue to put it in his hands and have him continue to guide me.

When it comes to friendships or relationships I give it my all. When I love, I love hard and when I trust it means something. I have learned in my lifetime that everyone doesnt have good intentions for you from the gate. so it took alot of failed relationships or friendships for me to get thicker skin and wise up.. But when it comes to loving someone no matter what the relationship is.. I still love hard. and my friends say all the time I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve which I do, and thats just me i have a big heart, One of my biggest problems when it comes to love is letting my emotions get the best of me, and with that said I tend to gradually and slowly push the people I care for away.. Im not perfect and im only human and I too am working on my imperfections but someone once said, that love is not about finding the perfect person, it is about learning to see an imperfect person perfectly!

Til next time
xoxo

Is checking your Facebook becoming a problem?

Facebook, YouTube, Wikipedia, Twitter, Myspace… the list is endless. Millions of us are addicted. The Government tells us that our time wasting internet addictions are costing the country billions of dollars every year. Our productivity at work is dismal because we spend most of the day reading our Fun Wall or checking out our favorite blogs. Can this additive behavior be beaten?

The answer my family and friends is Yes!

How to tell if you are an internet addict
Before we start you need to find out if you are an addict. Once you have admitted to yourself that you are addicted to your favorite website we can go about giving you some solutions for that problem. Here are some surefire signs that you are addicted:

1. You are late for meetings because you are on FacebookIf you ever late for a meeting or an appointment because you were checking your updates on Facebook or watching a related video on Youtube then you know you are addicted. This is classic addict behavior. It is time to get help.

2. You think about it when you are offlineI have several friends who struggle to get to sleep because they are thinking about the latest game or wondering how their website statistics are looking. If you do this then it could be a sign that you are heading towards a problem.

3. Your friends and family comment on your excessive internet useWhen other people around you start to notice that you have a problem it is generally a pretty accurate indicator that you are losing it. If your mates, coworkers or family members have made comments about how much you use the net then you need to read the rest of this post.

4. You check your accounts from your BlackberryA Blackberry is designed as a business tool. It is supposed to allow you to check your important emails and work materials without having to be in the office. It is not for checking Facebook or Myspace updates while you are having dinner with with someone, thats not whats up people, If you use your Blackberry for monitoring your social media accounts then you need help.

5. You get stressed when a Facebook “friend” doesn’t add youHave you ever noticed yourself getting stressed over something that has happened on Facebook or Myspace? Do you ever feel like your online life is more real than your offline life? If you have been stressed about what rapper you turned out as or what magic egg someone sent you then it is time to open your eyes.

Here are some ways that may help you beat your addiction:

1. Admit you have a problem first and foremost.

2. Write down how much time you actually spend on the site.

3. give yourself a set day and time to be on the site

4. turn off your notifications

5. write down what you did before there was a faceboo, youtube, twitter, myspace etc.

6. Block the site completely so you are not able to get on.

I know I have an addiction when it comes to my facebook and yahoo IM I IM two of my friends every single day and I feel as if my day can't go on unless there are logged on to IM so i can chat when needed. I am also logged onto my facebook account every single day, all day long and if I cant be on it from my computer I am logged on from my phone. (shaking my head) yes I know i have a problem, the first step is admitting you have a problem right?

So why is it so important in these days to be social via the internet rather than in person? I first realized how addicted I was on facebook when total strangers come up to me and be like your Evoney right? I am looking at them with a puzzled look like.. yeah... and they realize I don't recognize them and there like from facebook im such and such and im like oh yeah.. ok (shaking my head again) I see it as this , the world is now more technical, electronic this or internet capability that. and so is the way you are in the social aspects but I do agree it is not healthy and I need to be the first to go to Facebook Rehab.

What is your intake on this? Are you addicted to a social networking site?

Oprah Saying Goodbye in 2011

In a Very Special episode of The Oprah Winfrey Show airing today, Winfrey confirms plans to have her very last episode on the very thing that has molded her and helped create her billion dollar enterprise on Sept. 9, 2011.

"I love this show. This show has been my life. And I love it enough to know when it's time to say goodbye," Says Oprah.

"Twenty-five years feels right in my bones and it feels right in my spirit. It's the perfect number—the exact right time. So I hope that you will take this 18-month ride with me right through to the final show."

Her decision, she says, came after "prayer and careful thought."
So farewell to the couch-jumping , car-giving, celeb-confessing, book clubbing, weight-watching, housewife-inspiring shows that earned her a bucketload of Emmys and loyal audience of some 42 million viewers each week.

I for one will miss Oprah, I look forward to her shows each day. I have learned alot of self worth watching her show or going online to her blogs and seeing how millions of people are going through what I am going through. So I will cherish these last 18 months we have with miss winfrey.