Is compromising just to please your partner a good thing?
What makes for this difference?
A "bad compromise" is changing your habits and self in such a way that you wind up becoming less of your full, authentic, thriving self.
A "good compromise" is changing your habits and self in such a way that you grow more into your most full, authentic, best self
I have experienced the "bad compromise" I was in a relationship where I had to compromise who I was as a person. I loved to dance and my partner did not. so he didnt want me to go out dancing with my girls, so I would always make up excuses on why I wasnt going out yet again on a outing with them just to make him happy. Also I am a people person, I love my friends and I love making new ones as well, so he would get upset when I be on my phone with friends chatting or if I was to see someone out and start talkin to them. so I started barely callin friends and when I did see someone out I would just wave and say hello and keep doing whatver it was we were doing. I was slowly becoming depressed sort of speak, definately not myself and I had to do something about it. Needless to say I ended the relationship. It makes you really think about the things we do in the name of love.
What is a good compromise?
Heres what I think:
When one partner requests the other to attempt to be a little neater or more organized.
When one partner requests the other to take better care of their health and fitness.
When one partner requests the other try to be a more direct communicator and to speak up more often. When one partner requests the other to speak less and listen more.
Have you ever made a compromise to please a partner? Share your thoughts with me.
xoxo
Til next Time.
