Forgive and forget.. those are words I have played over and over in my head since i was 10. Can you really forgive and forget heartache?, can you really forgive and forget abandonment? Can you forgive and forget betrayal? Or is it you may have forgave but you will never be able to forget. Since I was 8 I have had to have the strong bone and the strong personality when it came to me and my brother, I can remember the hands of my mothers boyfriend who was also my god father beat my brother for no reason. At a early age I had to be his protector and do what I had to do to get us out of the situation we were in. We came to live with my fathers sister when I was 9. It was the happiest time in my life so far because finally we felt safe, finally we felt loved. But with that safety came more heartache. My mother stopped coming to visit us, she disapeared off the face of the earth as I seen it. at a young age I didn't understand why.. why she chose this man over her own flesh and blood and with that I built up a wall and had to become stronger even more so than before. I had this tough exterior but inside i was dying. I have been through alot in my years some at a very early age but it has molded me into who I am today. I have recently reaquainted with my mother. And I am torn on how I feel. I have forgave her a long time ago. I had to in order to have peace within myself but I can't forget what I went through I cant forget that heartache I felt. I have lost close friendships I never would have thought I would have lost, I have experienced being in a abusive relationship, I have been cheated on and so forth all which has made me even stronger.
So my question to you is: Can you forgive & forget or can it only be one or the other?
